My friend David in Atlanta has been going through an absolutely horrible divorce for the last couple of years. I have watched him deal with issues I would not wish on any one (like not seeing his 5 kids in over a year). He wrote this to me after his (almost) final court date – and I thought so much of it I asked permission to reprint here for you… What he doesn’t say in this article is that he learned this from me! But that aside – congratulations Dave!   A number of people have recently been surprised at by response when they ask how I’m doing.  I am wonderful; great; fantastic; fabulous… but they all expect me to say “hanging in there” as if only basically coping.  The forensic psychologist at my divorce case asked me how I was… and when I said “wonderful” he asked “why” in […]

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One of my readers asked me when I was going to find happiness myself! What a surprise question that was! But I realized that I am not writing clearly enough. So let me make this more clear. I am happy. Can I be more happy? Yes. Can I be less happy? Sure! Overall I am happy. Much of this comes from gratitude. I am very, very grateful for what I have which includes a wonderful wife/partner and two boys, a beautiful place to live (a horse farm in the foothills of the Appalachian mountains), income sufficient to meet all obligations and then some, and so much more that I could continue to list. The purpose of my blog is not to make me happy – it is to do my best to help others understand (if needed) how they can find happiness as well. Don’t I look happy here? Finding […]

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John Carlton is a very good copywriter – and has posted a great column linked here: http://www.john-carlton.com/2007/12/27/the-dark-side-of-passion/ This is an excerpt I particularly liked. *************************************************************** You can set an example, by tending your own garden and living life as well as you can. (And I’ve always believed that is part of the job of the entrepreneur… to engage life with gusto, for the sake of every feudal slave in history and every oppressed schlub today who has dreamed of the freedom to think, act and love without censorship and an authoritarian boot on his neck. You OWE it to him to make the best of your good fortune.) **************************************************************** Take a look at the whole post if you like this…    

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On a scale on 1-10 (10 being deliriously happy) just how much do you feel happiness on a daily level? We all understand happiness ebbs and flows, but some people are definitely more happy on average than others. This is fascinating and worth a look. Another interesting question to ask is: What is the happiness level you would want to be averaging? Once you have decided what is your optimum number, congratulations! You have now set a goal. How do you go about achieving it? The most simple method is to look what one thing you could change that would make the most difference in your attitude. Work on that one thing.  If you believe you are unhappy because of a relationship, a job, where you live, your lifestyle… then pick one area that you feel could change you most and begin to do the things you know you have […]

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