by miami | Sep 5, 2006
I have read a couple of articles this morning all referring in some way to the association of money and happiness.
Although I certainly agree money can help one decide to be happy (it is hard to be happy when you are hungry and cold!), I truly believe an excess of money is just the opposite and makes it harder to find and maintain happiness.
It appears to me that the folks I know with money in the banks (lot of money) seem to have bought special problems and challenges.
Among them being fake friends, need to keep up with the latest, greatest stuff, and the worry someone is always out to take your money away from you.
Not my worries!
Once again – money cannot buy happiness – only you ca do that – through choosing to be happy.
So simple. So challenging. So rewarding.
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by miami | Sep 5, 2006
Back from a long Labor Day weekend and happy! Tired but happy!
As I have repeatedly said happiness is a choice. You choose to be happy. You make choices to create your life. The two kinds of choices together create a happy life. It is so simple yet can be so difficult.
Many try other ways as a shortcut. Drugs is one way that is often tried whether it is recreational or prescribed.
This article today at www.healthnewsdigest.com by a neurologist backs up my point!
Dr. D.V. Pasupuleti, neurologist and author of Change Your Mind: A Neurologist’s Guide to Happiness, supports a simple, natural alternative to antidepressants: your mind. Dr. Pasupuleti believes anyone can create their own happiness by understanding themselves and letting go of negative thoughts and preconceived ideas. With Change Your Mind, he
explores the basic tenants for true happiness geared toward regular people seeking lasting contentment in their lives—from single mothers, to business executives, to high-stress college students.
“Learning to be happy is not a mystical pursuit,” says Dr. Pasupuleti. “In my years as a neurologist, I have noticed that the people who are happy meet their problems with a positive type of analysis and attitude, even in the face of suffering.”
Dr. Pasupuleti’s practical guidance is rooted in his studies of psychiatry, neurology and various world religions. Through these experiences, he has found that people who truly know themselves and keep an open mind are better equipped to deal with problems that arise in
their daily lives because they maintain higher levels of happiness throughout turmoil.
Dr. Pasupuleti’s tenants include: a) material possessions are meant to be enjoyed, but don’t ultimately create lasting happiness, b) understanding where negative emotions come from will help you control and overcome them and, most importantly, c) happiness comes only from within, and spreading that happiness to others only increases your own.
“It won’t happen overnight,” he says. “But those who are willing to follow simple rules for happiness will find that happiness can be achieved.”
HealthNewsDigest.com
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by miami | Sep 1, 2006
This artile in the Nassau (Bahamas) online paper gives a great simplistic view on how to be happy! Choose to make your holiday weekend a great one!
Many readers have commented on my optimistic outlook on life and relationships. When anyone asks how I developed this attitude, I share this story about a “university study.”
Two preteen boys, one pessimistic and the other optimistic, were put in different rooms.
The pessimist was in a room with the latest toys and gadgets, and the optimist was put in a room with a huge pile of horse manure.
When the researchers returned an hour later, they found the pessimist in a corner. He had pushed all the toys and gadgets to the side and was whimpering that he was afraid he would break something and get into trouble.
When they entered the room with the optimist, they found him enthusiastically digging in the pile.
When they asked him why he was so excited, he exclaimed, “With all this, there must be a pony in here somewhere!” All the cliches you’ve ever heard – “Every cloud has a silver lining,” “When one door closes, another opens” and so on – have been created and maintained by people who have lived them.
The hard part is in believing that things will get brighter when all you see is the darkness.
Your perspective about this may have to grow over time. If you have never experienced a low time that has been followed by a time of joy, then it’s hard to perceive that it could happen to you.
The truth is that for most people who are willing to make the effort and take a chance, most obstacles can be overcome. Luckily, the next phase is often much better than the one that ended.
If you feel that you’ll never be in love again after a breakup, take heart. Most people do find someone else to love.
If you’re frightened for your survival because of a job loss, believe that your next job most likely will be a better one than the last. The trick is to not allow yourself to wallow in self-pity and instead take some practical steps to help get what you want.
I promise that if you sit around waiting for good things to come to you, the only thing you will receive is disappointment.
It may be hard to see when life is standing on your neck, but there are millions of people who will tell you that they got where they are by putting themselves out there.
It’s true that you run the risk of someone saying no or of getting your heart broken yet again, but that’s my point. You have to take a shot if you want to change your life for the better.
One of the most powerful positions you can take in life is to know that if you were to lose everything, you could find happiness and success again. I pray you never have to go through anything so difficult, but if you do, you need to trust that you have the inner strength to make your world whole again.
The Nassau Guardian – www.thenassauguardian.com
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by miami | Aug 30, 2006
I know this has been quite the long post but I for one have really enjoyed it! These folks have taken the things I have written about and talked about for years and condensed it into 12 short introductions.
Here are the last two!
See them all here! http://www.mind-control-method.com/
Leave it to Me (the true self)
Dwelling inside each one of us is the True Self, and its opposite the false self. To all intents and purposes we may say that they are two separate beings, and it is very important that we are aware of this.
When we function from the True Self we experience greater happiness, fulfillment, and effortless action in all areas of our life. When the false self is in control we are more likely to experience frustration, emptiness, and negativity.
The True Self is the essence of who we are, and when functioning in our life, lets us express the full range of positive emotions, and at the same time experience great joy in our life.
It is the real you, that deep down you, you’ve always known yourself to be. It is always with you, though at times it may appear to be veiled from you by the false self. Once you have experienced the True Self, an inner desire to return will become active in your life.
Any time that we feel separated from our True Self the following procedure will aid in our reconnection. Take a few full, deep, abdominal breaths. Pause after each breath for a count of four seconds. On each exhalation, relax and let go of any concerns that you might have. Become aware of any muscular tension and simply allow it to dissolve. This leads us to a state of stillness and inner calm.
Leave it to Me – Let go and trust your true self
Comfort Zone (stretch your boundaries)
Our comfort zone conforms directly to the imagined image that we have of ourselves, i.e. our self-image. It is important to realise that it is only imaginary: an illusion.
The foundation of the illusion was laid down in our infancy and while allowed to go unchallenged will continue to exert a powerful influence over us.
Awareness of this allows us to choose techniques, such as repeating an affirmation, to expand that self-image. In expanding it, those actions formerly performed outside of the comfort zone become easier and there is a noticeable reduction in “negative” stress. This will also stretch the boundary of the comfort zone itself, letting us experience many new possibilities where we can perform more efficiently as well as more effectively.
Comfort Zone – Learning to stretch your boundaries
Here & Now (being in the moment, happiness right now)
To feel fully alive to our experience it is necessary to be aware of the present moment. True happiness is born in this moment.
If you experience separation from this moment, this is the time to practise “presence of mind” (i.e. awareness of being present, here in this moment). This will reconnect you with your inner power, your true state. Simply become aware of your sensations, surroundings. Becoming aware will anchor us in the here and now. Our lives are formed from the thoughts we think in the present. By focusing on this point and affirming from it we empower our thoughts into existence.
If you are not experiencing happiness right now, you are contemplating the future, or replaying the past. Practice presence of mind for positive results.
Be Here & Now – being in the moment, happiness right now
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