Be Do Have is the key to happiness!

An informal survey (by me) revealed an interesting
statistic.

I asked close everybody I spoke to (even strangers) if they
had enough time. If they had enough time I asked if they had enough money.

Most said they had neither enough time nor money. A few (very few) had
time but no money. Even fewer had enough money.

Then I asked if they knew anyone who had enough time and money. One person could name three people, but I do not think he knew them very well. He was one of the few who knew
someone.

My wife named three people. All were retired. All had worked the same jobs most of their lives and had paid for their homes. One was her grandmother of 93, one was a single man of 84 andthe other was a couple in their late 60’s that lived in the same place all their lives.

Ouch! Can this be true? Do the majority of people not have time and money until they
retire? Which brings up this question. Is it OK to have time and no money? Or is
it OK to have money but no time?

Are we spending (literally) our whole lives after time and money with little possibility of reaching that goal until late in our lives?

Why am I even writing only a step this? What is the point? Does it even matter that we seem to dogging time and money our whole lives?

One thing that comes to mind is our kids. You know, the grandchildren that are growing up to lead the world, and solve the problems we are leaving to them. What are we teaching them by our actions? We aren’t teaching them much directly now we are too busy!

Maybe I write this out of guilt. How many times have I told my boys I am too busy to listen,
play, talk, watch a movie, read a book, and go outside or a thousand other things kids want to do?

Or maybe this is the same thing that attracts me so powerfully to the BeDoHave formula.

I have said that most people are Doing something to Have stuff so they can Be somebody. This is the formula we have been conditioned to give thumbs up since forward we were born by our
parents, peers, promotion and entertainment. DoHaveBe.

Do you see how we can never have enough stuff to be somebody as things go there is frequently more stuff to have? Under this formula we are scrambling, using all our time to earn
money so we can buy stuff. Are we not using our time and money in order to be somebody? The big question is when are we going to be somebody? When will we have enough stuff?

Let’s turn the formula clockwise to BeDoHave. I think that might be the cure!

First we work on the human being ourselves. Who are you? Be that person first. Next we find what it is we love to do. Do that with passion and joy. Give it everything you got!

Then comes the more difficult part. We must have faith in the Universal Energy that when you Be who you are and you Do what you love that you will Have what you will need.
I think the people who do have enough time and enough money arefollowing the BeDoHave formula.

And that is why I wrote the book BeDoHave – or Find Happiness Now!

Miami

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Interesting blog on Happiness

Interesting to see someone take Happiness as a project! I take it as a way of life. Grtetchen Rubin writes well and has lots of cool posts.

Take a look!
http://happinessproject.typepad.com/

The Happiness
Project

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Be Do Have is the key to being happy!

I wrote the book Be Do Have which is based on years of coaching people and understanding most of us are Doing something to Have stuff so we can Be happy. It is not working!

Here is an excerpt from Neil Donald Walsch and his Conversations With God book (which I highly recommend!

“GOD: Most people believe if they “have” a thing (more time, money, love — whatever), then they can finally “do” a thing (write a book, take up a hobby, go on vacation, buy a home, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to “be” a thing (happy, peaceful, content, or in love). In actuality, they are reversing the Be-Do-Have paradigm. In the universe as it really is (as opposed to how you think it is), “havingness” does not produce “beingness,” but the other way around. (more…)

Money can’t buy you happiness.(Told you!)

On the Early Show today, Money Magazine Editor Eric Schurenberg made some interesting observations about money and happiness.

I have said all along money cannot buy your happiness (although it certainly can make you more comfortable!).

Read the whole article here.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/08/22/earlyshow/living/money/main1924917.shtml

Money can make you happy but having more money doesn’t make you more happy. That’s where a lot of people go wrong.

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