by miami | Sep 25, 2006
Well I am sorry. It is impossible to make everyone happy. In fact, if they would only read what I write they would realize I cannot make them happy anyway!
What has happened is after several emails, and articles doing my best to let everybody know I was moving my email list management to a new (better in this case) software, I sent out notification this morning asking if you would click on a link – that is all- just click on the link to verify you wanted to receive articles and newsletters from me. I even offered a gift for a click!
Some people, who we will leave unnamed, have complained that clicking a link is too much trouble.
Sorry.
But you will be missing out. I have been working a lot of hours for a long time to build something I felt would help a whole lot of people.
See I think we are in the middle of the greatest transformation the world has ever seen! But because we are smack dab in the middle of it – we can’t see it. Well I can.
I am not bragging – I am just different I guess. Different up bringing, different lifestyle, different way of thinking. Maybe that is why I see it and you don’t.
Not to worry mate! I am here to help.
At any rate, for those of you who are too troubled to click a link, we’ll miss you! And we hope you find happiness from someone else!
For those who have clicked the link, and there are a lot of you, thanks so very much for trusting me and allowing me the priviledge of communicating with you.
I am honored. And I promise to do my utmost to keep that trust.
Miami
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by miami | Sep 24, 2006
Skimming through the articles this morning finds not much of interest or unusual or exciting about happiness.
I definitely see a pattern emerging of the scientific community jumping on board the find happiness bandwagon with research, documentation and books galore. Most do not give any specifics, just facts on how to find happiness.
Well for sure facts certainly make me happy! Right.
Here is the deal. Happiness takes work. I know – who needs more work?
The work I am talking about is change, and sometimes that is the hardest work of all. Nobody wants to change! Especially as we get older and set in our ways.
Unfortunately, being set in our ways is exactly what can make us unhappy. Bcoming bored with life is easy to do when life is a routine. We must break that routine and do different (sometimes radically different) things.
Which of course takes action instead of procrastination.
For instance at 51, gravity is doing its best to move my chest to my stomach area. I am one of the lucky ones who never changes weight (I weigh the same as I did in high school) but it is shifting. I also have not exercised much lately which means I feel much less active and feel much more the aches and pains associated with years of physical activities like rugby, sailing and clearing land for our horse farm.
So – radical action! I joined an over 40 soccer team! I have changed old aches and pains for new ones. However I am meeting some interesting people, rearranging the body movement caused by gravity and too much sitting around, and maybe most importantly – having fun!
Because having fun translates into happiness.
Just one way I am finding happiness today.
Miami
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by miami | Sep 23, 2006
You will definitely find one common theme throughout all the articles I write – Having does not produce happiness as many believe.
Lots of people when asked what would help them find happiness will say “more money”. When you get them to dril down nobody wants more money! It is what you can do with the money they want, but theyare not clear on this and end up chasing money all their lives.
This excerpt from a great article in a Maylasian paper (isn’t the world small!) written by WONG YEEN FERN is an example of an excellent view on finding happiness.
Suresh also discussed ‘conditioned happiness’ – a phrase linking materialistic factors to the kind of happiness which he said will not be permanent.He said that those who enjoy ‘conditioned happiness’ will get depressed easily when materialistic needs no longer abound.Ultimately, he emphasised, to attain ‘real’ happiness in life, an individual should not have any hatred, must be friendly, compassionate and forgiving and free from any attachment to egoism.
Rentakini :: Malaysians must learn to laugh more
In my book BeDoHave Find Happiness Now, I talk about finding the joy of a baby. Wong Fern gives a fact I did not know.
“Babies laugh 300 times a day but as they grow older, their laughter becomes less. When they become adults, their laughter is reduced to only 15 times a day.”
Rentakini :: Malaysians must learn to laugh more
Laugh like a baby today!
Miami
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by miami | Sep 22, 2006
Tell the truth, I am getting a bit sick of experts! They are people like me and you who get quoted and then everyone takes their words as gospel.
BS. I am getting too less young to be taken in.
I do read a lot about happiness, and finding happiness (after all I have to keep up so I can be an expert too!) and when I do I find there is nothing that has not been said in the last 2000 years or so.
But anyway here is an excerpt from an article in the penningtonpost.com (wherever that is!) by Nancy Pickering talking about one of my favorite people Charles Shultz. (author of Peanuts)
We cannot expect to live in a state of complete happiness, say the experts. We should expect our happiness to come in bursts, for, after all, happiness is an emotion that gives us direction. We can’t always have our compass pointing in one direction. There are other emotions that direct our lives.
However, several truly happy moments a day are within reach. The recognition of and impact of those moments can only be determined by the person experiencing them. While you may smile when you walk barefoot through dew-laden grass on a sunny morning, someone else might cringe and find the experience “yucky,” to quote a famous grouch. So, taking a page from the “Peanuts” gang and Maria’s “favorites” list, I compiled the following short and personal “Happiness” collection – the smell of coffee brewing (I don’t drink it, just love the smell) and knowing the one who brewed it has been there for me for more than 40 years; flowers blooming where you don’t expect them; children giggling; toddler hugs; a real letter (not an e-mail); someone who says thank you; someone who smiles; finding a penny; walking in the rain; planting something; sewing something; knitting something with real wool; baking something; writing something; phone calls from my children and grandchildren and line-dried, clean sheets at the end of a busy day.
No matter how short-lived our happiness moments, they all benefit our well-being. So, in the middle of a hectic, frustrating day, it pays to pause and find some happiness close at hand. According to the experts, it may just affect your emotional compass and send you off in the right direction.
The Pennington Post – Happiness is…
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