by miami | Jun 19, 2007
Since writing the book BeDoHave about finding happiness several years ago, I have spent thousands of hours thinking about and in conversation with people about the subject of being happy.
What makes us happy, how do we become unhappy, how do we be happy when there is nothing to be happy about… that kind of stuff.
As a husband and father – (and therefore by default the provider) – many times happiness seems tied to my ability to fulfill these roles. In other words if the family is provided for and is happy – then I am happy.
If you have completed the “Definitions of Success” exercises (given away for signing up for the blog), then you know it is impossible to base success – or happiness on something out of your control. Nor do I believe we should base our happiness on others.
Four years ago we bought some expensive dirt outside Atlanta and proceeded to build a dream. (more…)
by miami | May 9, 2007
I wrote the book BeDoHave – The Cure the Great Unknown American Epidemic almost three years ago now. Thousands have heard the message contained within and have told me it works for them.
Over the winter I found myself falling back on Doing Having Being! And my life changed dramatically – for the worse!
Once I saw what I was doing and changed it back to Being first – it took a very short time to restore the equilibrium I need in my life. My energy returned, my happiness level soared back to previous level.
(Hang on – there is a point to this story!)
If you have read much of my articles over the last five years, you are aware Shelly and I built a sailboat to live on for six years. I loved it. We decided when our first son was 5 to come back from the Carribbean, sell the boat and make lots of money. (more…)
by miami | Apr 16, 2007
If I believe in the natural laws of the Universe (as I should), there are several to keep in mind as I go about my business of finding happiness on a daily basis while ensuring a good life for myself and my family.
Among some of the laws I pay attention to are the 80/20 rule, the law of attraction and the law of equal but opposite actions.
April 15 is a good example of the law of equal but opposite actions. Another way to look at this law is to define it as challenges and opportunities. If for every action there is an equal but opposite action, then for every challenge there is an equal but opposite opportunity.
Does this sound familiar?
Somehow I have blessed with the ability to search for the opportunity long before I see something as a challenge.
In fact, challenges excite me as I know what is coming is in all probability an opportunity to achieve a wish, want or goal. I can get excited simply by thinking that the Universe is sending me this opportunity to learn, gain or help in some way with outcomes I had never even considered!
However, when it comes right down to it, isn’t this all about choice? Each of us has the choice to decide whether something is an opportunity or a challenge. Is the glass half full or half empty?
On April 15, we all have the opportunity to feed the goose that lays the golden eggs. We live in the most incredible land of opportunity in the world and we must support that land.
Is the goose too fat? Certainly. Does the goose eat too much. Absolutely.
As Jim Rohn says “Better a fat goose than no goose at all!”
Don’t worry. Be happy.
Miami
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by miami | Feb 17, 2007
Well, for me anyway happiness is a great ski day! Last week we took our planned mini vacation during the week.
It turned out to be a great couple of days to get away and get refreshed and spend time with family and friends.
Several things apply here in regards to happiness.
First, if we had not planned this trip during our annual planning session in January, we probably would not have gone. Somehow stuff always seems to come up right when you want to leave. If we had not booked the room, and cleared our calendars far in advance, it is very possible I would not be writing this post.
Is happiness planned? (more…)
by miami | Feb 5, 2007
When we talk about BeDoHave and how following the formula will help you create the life you want, too many folks would like to believe creating is a passive verb.
Many would be upset if their lives have not changed by week two. After all have they not been meditating? Have they not been writing their wish lists on paper? Why hasn’t the Universe brought them everything they want like lots of money?
You and I know this is not the way it works!
To Have what you want (or need for that matter) the Universe works when you do. There is another crucial element in that the more specific you are in communicating your wants and dreams to the Universe the better an anwer you will receive.
That will bring us back to practical steps, like budgets and planning.
In our family we have completed our tax preparations and they are in the hands of the accountant. The budgets are completed for 2007 based on 2006 numbers plus the changes we want and expect. We have filled in our calendar for the year as much as possible including three vacations to different places we want to go.
We are in continuing discussions to create the life we will be living in one year, three years, five years.
If we don’t set the desired end destination now, how do we know what course to steer? We don’t.
Some would say such planning takes the fun out of the journey.
I disagree. I would much rather have planned for something I want to do, be working toward that end, and ask the Universe to help provide that result or something better. In that way we can always make changes in the direction opportunities bring to us.
The key is to be moving forward all the time. To have a vision of an outcome might be one of the most important tasks we can do for ourselves.
Once you have a vision, set a plan for obtaining it, set measurements or benchmarks so you know you are getting there, and reward yourself for your achievements!
Don’t forget that once you set all this in motion the Universe has no choice but to help you achieve it.
How cool is that?
Till next time,
Don’t worry, be happy!
Miami
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by miami | Jan 23, 2007
Yesterday I was talking to a friend about happiness and money, and realized he did not understand a simple law of the Universe.
This law is as strong as gravity and you can no more ignore this law and be wealthy as you can jump off a tall building and fly!
Wealthy is not to be defined by the amount of money you have alone, money is certainly part of it, but there is much more to wealth. Wealth in relationships, wealth in health, wealth in happiness are all parts of being wealthy.
The law I refer to is this:
What you think about you attract.
In other words, you create your life by your thoughts.
What my friend could not understand is that his persistent dwelling on what he owed to others, how small was his income, the high costs of everything he wished to have – all these thoughts are telling the Universe to bring you more of the same. And the law is:
The Universe will bring you exactly what you think.
Today, pay close attention to your thoughts, and what you say, and do, and really begin to look at what you are asking for. Realize you are creating your life on a minute by minute basis with your thoughts and actions and ask “Am I happy with life I am creating?”
If wealth is a goal in your life, create in your mind, know that it will be a reality, and go about your life actively looking for the opportunities that will be placed in your path. When those opportunities arise, when your intuition says go!, when you get the feeling that says Do it! – take advantage of the Universal Law working in your favor.
Don’t worry, be happy!
Miami
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